Can a Married Couple Stay Together When They Need Different Levels of Care?

One of the most emotional senior living situations occurs when a husband and wife have very different care needs.

Perhaps one spouse is completely independent while the other requires help with bathing, medications, or mobility.

Or one spouse has developed dementia while the other remains cognitively healthy.

Families understandably ask:

"Will they have to be separated?"

Not necessarily.

Some Communities Offer Multiple Levels of Care

Many senior living campuses offer combinations of:

• Independent living
• Assisted living
• Memory care

This can create several possibilities for couples whose needs are different.

In some situations, both spouses may be able to live together in an assisted living apartment while care services are provided primarily to the spouse who needs them.

One Spouse May Live in Assisted Living

If one spouse needs assistance and the other does not, assisted living may still work for both.

The more independent spouse can continue enjoying:

• Activities
• Dining
• Transportation
• Social events
• Community amenities

while the spouse requiring assistance receives an individualized care plan.

Dementia Can Make the Decision More Complicated

If one spouse requires secured memory care, living in the same apartment may no longer be practical.

However, a community that offers both assisted living and memory care on the same campus may allow the couple to remain close.

The healthier spouse may be able to:

• Visit frequently
• Share meals
• Attend activities together
• Spend significant portions of the day together

while both receive the appropriate level of support.

Consider the Healthier Spouse Too

Families sometimes focus completely on the spouse with the greatest care needs.

But the healthier spouse may also be struggling.

He or she may be:

• Providing constant supervision
• Losing sleep
• Managing medications
• Handling household responsibilities
• Becoming socially isolated
• Experiencing caregiver exhaustion

A move can sometimes improve quality of life for both people.

Ask Communities Specific Questions

When touring, ask:

• Can spouses with different care needs share an apartment?
• How are care charges determined?
• What happens if one spouse later needs memory care?
• Can couples spend time together across different sections of the community?
• Are there apartment sizes appropriate for couples?

Policies vary considerably from one community to another.

Final Thoughts

Moving into senior living does not automatically mean separating a married couple.

With thoughtful planning, families can often find arrangements that protect the spouse needing care while preserving the couple's relationship and time together.

We help families throughout Brevard and Indian River Counties, FL and Muscogee and Harris Counties, GA explore senior living options that take into consideration not only individual care needs, but the needs of couples and families as a whole.

Jon Ombres | Senior Contributor

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